Motherly love by its very nature is unconditional.
Mother loves the newborn infant because it is her
child, not because the child has fulfilled any specific
condition, or lived up to any specific expectations.
Unconditional love corresponds to one of the deepest
longings, not only of the child, but also of every
human being. On the other hand, to be loved
because of one's merit or because one deserves it,
always leaves doubt and there is always a fear that
love could disappear. Furthermore deserved love
easily leaves a bitter feeling that one is not loved for
himself but is loved only because he pleases, and
that he is not loved at all but used. No wonder that
we cling to the longing for motherly love, as children
and also as adults.